Most Asked Questions
Is the ITI for me?
This program was designed for you. Most of the participants of the ITI over the last several years have been people who have been on the path for years and yet they still experienced significant shifts and deepening. The two main aspects that facilitate such transformations are the power of group work and the length of time we are together. The group pulls out your patterns, and thus you are able to work on many layers. Also you will go through a personalized process that focuses on exactly the areas where you are stuck and working with your blind spots.
If you are committed to doing your work, owning your triggers, looking into your wounds and are open to receive support the ITI can work for you wherever you are in your personal development. Many of the participants have been on the path for sometime and we have had people who were just beginning and it was a powerful and transformative experience for them. They wanted to make a big shift in their life and were ready to dive deep.
If this is a concern that you have, it’s best if we talk about it in a conversation to address the specific areas of concern. I am happy to get on a call with you if you want clarity on this prior to applying to the program. You can find my contact information here.
An ITI participant expressed: “When I look back at the ITI, it was the best investment that I’ve made. I had spent so much money on courses and workshops, that didn’t help me to make the shifts I was wanting to make. ITI didn’t give me theory, it gave me the experience to embody all the theory that I had learned and integrate it into my daily life. The intensity and length of the program created a greater opportunity for change and created new habits. It also gave me the tools I needed to continue to deepen my work afterwards, thus making lasting effects.”
Also, many participants after going through the ITI, apply to assist in future programs as they got so much out of the teachings, the space and the group work. For the time being, it is free to assist in future program if you are accepted. For the amount of teaching, support and contact hours you get with me and my team, the ITI is a great deal. You taking this step to invest in yourself, will also encourage you to show up more fully for yourself.
A unique aspect of the ITI is that we design part of it to address your personal issues. Most programs have a set topic and agenda that you go through and you have to fit into the program. The ITI has a set agenda, part of that agenda has the space to focus individually on what each participant needs, instead of a predefined topic. The ITI gives you the skills to work on any topic in your life where you are struggling.
Here are some of the topics that we have worked on with past ITI participants: body image, sexual shame, direction in life, connecting to their masculinity or femininity, learning how to trust people more, overcoming Mr. Nice Guy, getting in touch with their emotions, cultivating lucidity among their emotions, learning how to set boundaries, how to develop their sexuality (orgasms and ejaculation control), stepping out of people pleasing, learning how to detect and respect others boundaries, have more harmonious relationships, prepare for having a child, their relationship with money, learn how to have more harmonious and effective communication, finding their purpose, learning how to surrender, dealing with their fear, inhibitions, self doubt and inner critic, and much more.
Also, part of the prep work that you do before the program starts is to fill out an extensive questionnaire, so that we can get some insights into the different areas of your life. Another part of the prep work is sending out questions and questionnaires to different people in your life. Some are acquaintances and others are more extensive to send to people who really know you well. This gives us some insight on what you are like outside of how you show up in the group.
You are welcome to contact me and share what you want to work on and we can explore together if the ITI is a good fit for you. You can find my contact information here.
Structure of the program
It is called an ‘Intensive’ for a good reason. You will not have much free time. We pack a lot into the four weeks that we have together. It is best if you fully commit yourself to the program. You have days off, but they are not always spaced one week apart, as we have a 10 day retreat in the middle of the ITI. During those 10 days you will be off line completely. The exact dates and details are mailed to you two months prior to the program.
You will not have much time to do your work on the side and the free time that you do have I recommend that you use it for resting, relaxing and just having space to process whatever is moving inside of you. It is best if you can clear your schedule. If you need to do some work, talk with me to see if it will be possible or compromise your experience in the ITI.
There are several rituals that people are assigned to do at home with their partner. It is up to you if it is important for you to do these rituals or not. Some people have joined the ITI single because they were mostly interested in the other aspects of the program. Others have joined single and met someone who was in the program or joined another couple for the rituals. It is your choice to evaluate your priorities and preferences when it comes to engaging with the sexual rituals.
If you have a partner, they do not have to be in the program. It is enough for them to be close to support you in the love making rituals that you do at home.
Yes, there is nudity. And that doesn’t mean that you have to be naked. There is an emphasis throughout the ITI for you to feel into what is right and best for you in each moment and honoring your own boundaries. We support you in this process.
If you are not accepted into the program, you will be refunded your money minus a processing fee ($15USD).
You will not be refunded your $100 deposit if you change your mind. This fee will have covered the time and energy went into processing your application, team meetings preparing for your interview, the interview and team meeting deciding upon your acceptance into the program.
Within two weeks of being accepted into the program, a payment of $1000 USD is required to reserve your spot in the ITI. The full payment of the program needs to be made by 1 month prior to the start of the program. You can decide how you want to make your payments within these two deadlines.
You will not be refunded your money once you have reserved your spot in the program. There are limited spaces and a careful selection process of the participants, signing up for the ITI is a commitment you make to yourself and the program.
No, you do what feels best for you. We will support you in identifying, respecting, and communicating your boundaries. We may inquire into your resistance to understand where it is coming from. And while we do this, we want to also honor your resistance and this is an essential part of establishing a strong sense of self.
I recommend that you get a 60 day tourist visa. This will allow you to be on the island and focused on the program and to make the most of your breaks. You can get a 30 extension, on top of your 2 months visa, if you choose to stay longer. If you want to stay in Thailand for several months, I suggest you apply for a multiple entry tourist visa.
Most passports are giving 30 days free visa upon entry (please check to confirm that you fall into this category). In addition to this, you can also get a 30 day extension. Extensions require a half day trip to Koh Samui, the neighboring island. The boat there and back is aprox 600 b. Most people rent a motor bike for 150/200 b and drive themselves to the consulate. The extension is 1900 b.
You are responsible for taking care of your own food and accommodation. The program will happen in the area of Hin Kong, which is right next to Sri Thanu and about 10 minutes from Thong Sala. If you want to be within 5 minutes of the center, you want to find a house in the Coconut Lane area.
The program is happening during high season for the island, so I recommend booking a house sooner than later. There are several facebook groups you use to search for a house. I will send you the list of the groups in your acceptance email. If you want them before, reach out and ask.
Houses in Sri Thanu and Hin Kong range from 10,000 – 18,000 on average for a one bedroom, WiFi, aircon. It is good to check and see if electricity is included or not. Housing is cheaper outside of these neighborhoods. For cheaper housing look closer towards Thong Sala (the main town).
We will have one period during the ITI where you will need to have a house to yourself. The length of this retreat during the ITI will depend on how many participants are in the program. If you are living with a partner or a friend, please arrange to have you own home during this time. I will send you the schedule with these dates and your days off two months prior to the program. If you need it before, please email me and let me know and I will get them to you as soon as possible.
I recommend renting a motorbike or a car during your time here. Motorbikes are the more common option. There are many rental shops all around and you can also find some on facebook. I have a couple of old bikes that I rent for 1800 b/month. If you are interested in one of those, please email me.
There is also the option for renting a bicycle. There are a few places that rent. You can also post on the Koh Phangan community facebook groups if anyone wants to rent their bicycle out. Keep in mind there will be some rain and this may not always be a great way of getting around.
Most people need to fly into Phuket or Bangkok. Some are able to fly directly to Koh Samui.
From Bangkok or Phuket, there are a couple of options depending on how much money you want to spend and how much time you want to take.
From Phuket – You can get to the island (Koh Phangan) via Lompraya (https://www.lomprayah.com/) via bus and boat. Or you can fly via Bangkok Airways to Koh Samui. Koh Samui is a 30 min boat ride from Koh Phangan. When you take a ferry from Koh Samui you want to come to the Thong Sala pier.
From Bangkok – You can then catch a domestic flight to either Surat Thani (the cheaper option) or Koh Samui. If you want to fly to Koh Samui (the faster option), Bangkok Airways (https://www.bangkokair.com/) or Thai Airways (https://www.thaiairways.com/) are the airlines that fly into Koh Samui. Koh Samui is then 30 min ferry ride to Koh Phangan. When you take a ferry from Koh Samui you want to come to the Thong Sala pier.
If you want the cheaper options, Thai Smile (https://www.thaismileair.com/) flies from Sukabumi Airport (BKK) to Surat Thani. This is the international airport that you are likely to fly in to.
The other cheaper options require you to go to the domestic airport Don Mueang (DMK). There is a free shuttle service that runs from 5 am to midnight. The airlines you want to use from DMK airport are Air Asia (https://www.airasia.com) or Nok Air (https://www.nokair.com/). If you book with these airlines make sure to take care of your checked baggage when you book. You can get up to 40 kilos and for a good price. When you book through Air Asia or Nok Air you can get a joint flight/bus/boat ticket all the way to the island. Surat Thani is about 1 hr away from the pier and then it is a 2.5 hr ferry ride from the mainland to Koh Phangan.